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Being and Doing Love

Here’s the thing. It’s Valentine’s Day and as of the writing of this little blog, we are not sure if we will still be fully locked down in Ontario or not. We can be sure the pandemic has not disappeared, so we can still consider that more “stay-at-home” celebrations are in order.

David has often told me that Valentine’s Day is for amateurs. He has also often said that every day is Valentine’s Day. We need to tell our loved ones, they are loved. We need to show our loved ones, they are loved. Every single day. Maybe not always with chocolate or flowers, but in ways they appreciate. In a pandemic, this also means it might take more time, thought and effort.

Discover how your loved ones receive love.
Do they like gifts? Do they like popcorn and a movie? Do they like to read a good story? Do they want their fridge cleaned? Do they need a hug? These questions fall in the categories of the five love languages - gifts, time spent, words of encouragement, acts of service, physical touch.

My list.
Here are some economical ideas to celebrate those we love. These ideas can be done with your significant other, or with your kids. Adapt as you see fit.
• Put a dozen hearts on each person’s bedroom door the week of Valentine’s Day, and write down things you love about each person. For instance: “You are Kind”, “You are Funny”, “Thanks for helping with the laundry every week”.
• Order in your favourite take-out so no one has to cook.
• Pick a recipe you haven’t made before, and make the meal together. Get the candles, fancy plates or paper plates. Even make it a picnic. Use your imagination.
• Write a love letter and put it in a place for them to discover.
• Make a treasure hunt, with clues and a gift to find at the end.
• Read aloud together - the Bible, poetry, or a book you love.
• Play a favourite game, with a favourite snack.
• Bake heart shaped cookies or cakes together, and give them away to your neighbours.
• Go for a long walk in your favourite neighbourhood space.
• If you can - do an outdoor winter activity together - build a bonfire, roast marshmallows, drink hot chocolate.
• Run a hot bath for the tired-out parent or working partner with candles and soft music. Give them space to be alone. Bring them their favourite drink.
• Write Valentine’s cards together and bring them to your neighbours, or mail them to family and friends you can’t see right now!

I think you get the idea. It’s about doing and being together. Whatever you choose - choose love and joy and laughter in the midst of it. Together!

By Rebecca van Noppen
Co-host Let's Talk Money
Communications and Coaching Care Director at More Than Enough

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